Fuck Pressure

I hate pressure.

I hate pressure so much that I do whatever it takes to avoid it, consequences be damned.

The pressure to have a really awesome personal site as a web developer kept me from ever making one.

The pressure to be the kinda guy that girls would wanna date kept me from appreciating myself, quirks and all.

The pressure to live up to people’s expectations kept me from thinking critically about what I was doing and if it really made sense to me.

Pressure inflates certain points and downplays others. It becomes so much harder to make clear-headed rational decisions when it matters most.

“Dude, you can’t get diamonds without pressure”

Fuck diamonds, fuck pressure and fuck you too.

You do have a point though.

Pressure pushes us accomplish things we would never have, under normal circumstances.

I’m not saying pressure is stupid or pointless. It’s definitely made me more aware of how much further out my real boundaries are.

Even when I fail to overcome it, I still learn valuable lessons.

After years of being overwhelmed by the pressure for an awesome site, I learned that waiting for things to be perfect isn’t worth it.

Conditions not being perfect don’t put me under pressure anymore.

I never became the guy I thought girls would want, but I learned that some girls like me for who I am, and it’s much better to be in a pressure-free relationship than to continually struggle to live up to arbitrary expectations.

When you overcome pressure, you expand your limits. When you cave to it, you learn about yourself. As frustrating as it is, it definitely has its benefits.

I guess the best way to summarize this is “fuck pressure but embrace it”.

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  • Adim Ofunne

    Man at least you are even giving credit some pressure. I would even go to say most of the pressure if not all we receive in modern society is either self inflicted or just created by other people in our lives for no real reason. As in we can live without it. The whole shit about diamonds are created from pressure, people that say that forget Diamond can now be artificially manufactured and for most things (especially in tools we manufacture) we use artificial diamonds. The value of diamonds is also fabricated and they are not really rare. LOL I know I am ranting now but I agree with you quite passionately that pressure (especially in the modern world) is overrated and 90% of it can be done without

    • I almost went into a rant about diamonds but I didn’t wanna make this post too long. Thanks for filling in the gap lol. You touched on something I really wanted to go in-depth about: the types of pressures that are worth embracing.

      Societal pressures are plentiful, but they aren’t worth considering if they don’t align with my underlying beliefs.

      A perfect example is marriage. It’s not unusual for relatives to let you know they want you to get married to someone from your own “tribe”. How does this make sense? Why would I bow to the pressure and end up with someone I’m not really in love with, just to make them happy? Is being married to someone from your own tribe a surefire way to a successful marriage?

      Ire did bring up a good point on Twitter though.

      https://twitter.com/ireaderinokun/status/626473377625165824